Posted tagged ‘struggle’

Staying Positive in a Struggle When Others Are Frustrated

December 22, 2009

“What can you do to enable positive attitudes as the struggle continues so those around you don’t get frustrated with your struggle recovery?”  Marla

This question came in from a Success 2.0 Webcast

Marla, here are a couple of ideas for you:

Be an example and have the attitude you want others to have.  Those who are around you the most will respond to whatever attitude you have the most.  If you are going through a struggle and they see you embracing it, moving forward, looking for the bright side, and working hard to improve the situation, this will encourage them.

Express gratitude.  Let those around you know that you are thankful for many things, including their support, love, and encouragement.

Understand you can’t change everybody.  Some of the people around you may continue to react negatively and remain frustrated.  By being the right kind of person and doing the things you need to do to help the situation, you have the peace of mind to understand that they are not frustrated with you, but with the situation.  They may “take it out” on you from time to time, and after this occurs you may want to have a talk with them.  The purpose of this talk will be to ask them, “Are you frustrated with me, or the situation?”  Then listen.  Chances are good that it will be the situation, especially if you are doing all you can.  If they say it is you, then you will need to understand why.  Perhaps you are doing something that they see as making the situation worse that you have not considered.  If they are right, this is great news because you have more room to improve.  Maybe you just need a time of forgiveness and reconciliation.  Or maybe they are the ones with the problem.  In any case, you need to find out if they are part of your struggle and recovery.

Embrace The Struggle!

Life Lessons from the Struggle

December 12, 2009

This question came in from a Success 2.0 Webcast

“What is the most valuable life lesson you learned from this experience?”

James, there are a couple of valuable lessons that Dad and I have talked about regarding going through this intense health struggle.

First is how important it is to have the home court advantage.  Our family has really pulled together and rallied around Dad and his needs, helping him to recover and prosper.  This didn’t happen by accident, it is the result of the many “family seeds” that Mom and Dad have planted all of these years.

Second is seeing Dad’s core belief in action — that you respond instead of react.  It is easy to talk about when everything is going well and the problems are minor, but it is truly something to behold when you see it in action in the middle of a major struggle.

And third, seeing Dad’s unshakeable faith lived out daily.  Even in the pain of recovery, Dad’s smile communicated joy that only comes from a relationship with God.

Pressing Through When Times Are Tough

November 24, 2009

This question came in from last week’s Success 2.0 Webcast

“How do you keep pressing through when things look the worst, and your financial situation is moving in the wrong direction?”  Chris

There are several things you need to do when things look very bleak and seem to be getting worse.

Start by stepping back and realizing that you may not know what the future holds for you, but that you do know Who holds the future.  Knowing God is in control and having faith in Him gives us hope, and hope gives us power to take action.

Stop digging!  Take a reality check on your situation and do everything you can to dump the things you cannot afford.  Dave Ramsey has a proven formula for this and I recommend you check out his program.

Create a plan of action and work it.  Do everything you can every day to reverse the trend.  Have a garage sale, deliver pizzas, whatever it takes.

Fill your mind with the good stuff every day.  Read or listen to encouraging and positive messages.

Draw your loved ones close to you.  Tell them you love them and that you are doing everything you know how to do.  Encourage them, and ask them to encourage you.

At the end of the day, ask yourself, “Did I give it 100%?” If you did, then sleep well knowing that you have done all that you can.

The Most Important Trait in a Struggle

November 23, 2009

This question came in from our Success 2.0 Webcast last week.

“What is the most important trait that someone could have to remain positive in this economic environment?” Gary

In any type of struggle, faith is the most important thing you can have.  I have heard Dad say many times, “I don’t know what the future holds, but I know Who holds the future.”  When you know this and believe this, it gives you hope.  And as John Maxwell says, “When you have hope in the future, you have power in the present.”

Just Start

July 25, 2008

When you are in the middle of an immense struggle, what do you do? Maybe you have lost a loved one, or you are unemployed, or you are raising the kids alone, or you are in a health crisis or caring for someone who is in a health crisis. What do you do?

Just start.

Last year I attended the memorial service of Fred Smith. Fred was Dad’s mentor and the wisest man I have ever met. Fred’s last couple of years were very tough. He was bedridden, totally dependent, and in terrible pain. His mind was extremely sharp but he had very little energy. In a video he left for the memorial service, Fred talked about the lessons he learned in life, and especially in the last year before he died.

One thing Fred said really impacted me. He said that God doesn’t give you strength to overcome; He gives you strength while you are overcoming. Fred said that he realized that his only responsibility to God was to “just start” what God laid on his heart to do. In his last days Fred impacted many lives through his writings because he “just started” each morning when he woke up. No fear, no pressure to finish the job, he “just started.” At the end of the day he would realize that God had indeed given him the strength he needed while he was overcoming. The awesome thing about this is this is exactly how God works. If we could do incredible things on our own then we really wouldn’t need God or learn to depend on Him.

You can learn more about Fred at BreakfastwithFred