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FEAR!

December 6, 2009

“FEAR – it has knocked me sideways.  I am struggling with employment. What do you recommend ’cause I need to change!” Greg

This question came in from a Success 2.0 Webcast

Greg, I like how Dad talks about FEAR.  First, you have to understand it, and separate the good kind from the bad.  A little bit of it is good, because it gets you focused and, hopefully, moving in the right direction!  You can’t let it grow or consume you though.  Your answer to that “fear” in your heart should be an action plan followed up by action.  This transforms the fear into motivation.  You are now motivated to take action because you have a good plan, and you don’t like the consequences of doing nothing.

The second part of FEAR is where we all get in trouble.  Dad says FEAR is really False Evidence Appearing Real.  In other words, we allow our mind to play the “what if” game and we start to focus on all of the things that could go wrong.  This ends up paralyzing you and robs you of your energy and creativity.  This is why having an action plan and then acting on it is so critical.  When you start to doubt or worry, you need to literally tell yourself “Stop! I have a plan, and I am working 100% to get it done, and that is all I can do.”

Also, remember that Fear and Faith are close cousins.  They both believe that something is going to happen in the future, one Bad, and one Good.  When you have your action plan in place, and you are working it, you then need to transform your thought life from one of fear to one of faith.

A couple more ideas for you.  Check out Dave Ramsey to get information on how to create a financial game plan and check out Dan Miller on how to put together an employment game plan.  Both offer great advice and real solutions.

Trust

April 25, 2009

I was spending some time yesterday with my good friend, Oswald Chambers http://budurl.com/df8m .  I feel like I know him, even though he died years before I was even born, but his devotional book lives on and has impacted countless lives.  It’s refreshing to know that the answers to life’s toughest problems don’t change.

I came up with a little drawing that I am very proud of, not because it is a good drawing, but because it is a good visual of the difference between worry, fear and burdens, and trust, faith and peace.  The funny thing is the load doesn’t change that much, but how you carry it totally changes, and that totally changes your life.

The drawing is a picture of a teeter-totter, or a see-saw if you prefer.  On one side is your life’s burdens and the other side is you.  When you are very young you don’t have many burdens and it’s pretty easy to lift the weight.  You may not even know you really have burdens and responsibility.  But as time goes by, the burdens get bigger.  Things like your job, family responsibility, sickness, heartbreak, disappointment and failures start to add up.  Before you know it your feet are off the ground!

Then you learn a few things and you stop being so self-centered.  You start serving your family and your fellow man.  This makes your side of the teeter-totter a little longer, giving you more leverage.  This works great until you get whacked!  (And the fact is, we all get whacked at some time in our lives.)  You may even create a little more leverage by doing things for God and “serving” Him.  That feels great for a while, but it is very tiresome balancing yourself at the end of your side, lifting your burdens and spending so much time serving Him.  And then you learn that serving Him doesn’t keep you from getting whacked.  If anything, it pretty much guarantees you will get whacked in a big way!

And then, just when it seems your feet will never touch the ground again, a quiet voice says to you, “Trust Me, let Me carry your burdens.”  So you step out on your teeter-totter to a part of it you had never seen before, and you put your feet down on the planks of Trust and Faith and you walk towards God.  You realize that serving Him is not about the results you get, but instead just doing what He asks you to and leaving the results up to Him.  Your worry, fear, and burdens begin to melt and become weightless, not because they have gone away, but because you have given them to God.  You finally understand that you still get to do the work, but as long as you are focused on Him you don’t have to worry about the results – He has that covered.

I know there are readers of this blog from all over the world from many different faiths or even no faith.  You might even be wondering why this subject is included in a primarily business blog.  I thought you might like a little insight into what I believe, and why I have so much hope in such a tough time, and why, despite whatever circumstances may be going on, I have so much joy in doing the work because I don’t have to carry the fear and the worry.

(Forgive my bad drawings below!)

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