“What can you do to enable positive attitudes as the struggle continues so those around you don’t get frustrated with your struggle recovery?” Marla
This question came in from a Success 2.0 Webcast
Marla, here are a couple of ideas for you:
Be an example and have the attitude you want others to have. Those who are around you the most will respond to whatever attitude you have the most. If you are going through a struggle and they see you embracing it, moving forward, looking for the bright side, and working hard to improve the situation, this will encourage them.
Express gratitude. Let those around you know that you are thankful for many things, including their support, love, and encouragement.
Understand you can’t change everybody. Some of the people around you may continue to react negatively and remain frustrated. By being the right kind of person and doing the things you need to do to help the situation, you have the peace of mind to understand that they are not frustrated with you, but with the situation. They may “take it out” on you from time to time, and after this occurs you may want to have a talk with them. The purpose of this talk will be to ask them, “Are you frustrated with me, or the situation?” Then listen. Chances are good that it will be the situation, especially if you are doing all you can. If they say it is you, then you will need to understand why. Perhaps you are doing something that they see as making the situation worse that you have not considered. If they are right, this is great news because you have more room to improve. Maybe you just need a time of forgiveness and reconciliation. Or maybe they are the ones with the problem. In any case, you need to find out if they are part of your struggle and recovery.
Embrace The Struggle!