Teaching Kids to Respond vs. React
This question came in from a Success 2.0 Webcast
“How did you kids learn how to RESPOND rather than REACT?” Shoshannah
Shoshannah, we kids learned by example, and by reminder! I think most people, especially when they are kids, have a tendency to react when things don’t go their way. I can remember numerous occasions growing up when Dad would get “bad” news that would impact our family plans. It could have been rain on a vacation day, or a delayed flight, or whatever, but every time Dad always immediately focused on what we could do. I didn’t realize it at the time, but now I see that he was showing us that sometimes negative things happen, but those things don’t have to ruin our day, and we have that choice.
And, of course, he would “remind” us as well. When I would start to whine or complain about something, Dad would cut me off and remind me that I didn’t “have” to cut the grass, I “got” to cut the grass! A simple word change that turned a “have to” into a “get to.” Plus a firm reminder that whining and complaining would do no good and it is not tolerated.