Finding Hope – and Keeping It!
The following two questions came in response to my blog post — Attitude or Skill?
“So how does one overcome the beaten down attitude? I used to think differently, but in the past few years I’ve lost hope. How do I get it back?” from Brian
“What do you think is the most important part of maintaining an opportunity attitude?” from AJ
Perhaps you have asked yourself the same questions. Hope is the one thing that everyone wants. No matter what you have, or don’t have, if you are hopeless, it doesn’t really matter. If you are filled with hope, then no matter the situation, you can keep on going. So how do you find hope and then grow and maintain it?
First, you have to realize that finding hope is a choice. You have to look for it, and you have to take actions to create it. It is born from the belief that what you do can — and does — make a difference.
Dad has a great question that he asks his audiences when he speaks – “How many of you here today believe you can do something in the next three weeks that will make your family life, your personal life, or your business life——WORSE, can I see your hands?” Of course everyone laughs because it is the opposite of what they expect him to say, but then the reality hits them. If you ADMIT you can do something that will make your life worse, then you have to ADMIT you can do something that will make your life better! You have the power to make your life either better or worse, and the choice is yours!
Hope is born when you realize you have the power to make your life better, and the choice is yours.
Now comes the action part. What things can you do that will create a better life for you? First, you must start with retraining your thinking. If you have a hopeless, “beaten down” attitude, then you must put the right positive life-building information into your mind. This is a choice, and a choice you have to make every day. Thoughts always precede actions, so in order to have the right actions, you must have the right thoughts. Don’t worry about your emotional state during all of this. Your positive emotions will catch up after you begin to take action. As Dad says, “Logic will not change an emotion, but action will.”
What kind of actions can you take that will make your life better? Here is a challenge for you. Get a sheet of paper right now and quickly write down 20 things you can do today that will make your life better today – and then pick 5 or 10 of them and do them! Here are a few that should be on every list: Tell a family member you love them; call a friend and thank them for their friendship; read an article about your profession that will build your skill level; stand up and stretch your muscles and maintain good sitting posture; drink lots of water; listen to Zig Ziglar on your MP3 player…..You get the picture! You can find hope, and grow it.
Once you are doing these things, then you need to take the next step. Simply identify where you want to go, what you want to do/accomplish, and then break it down into small action steps – and start your journey – today.
Yes, you can find hope, and create it in your own life. But I would be remiss if I did not tell you that there is eternal hope that nothing in this world can shake. This is Dad’s real secret about hope because he understands that because his eternity is secure there is nothing in the present, no circumstance or trial, that will take away what Christ has done for him.