Quality Time vs. Quantity Time
Early on I remember Dad telling me that Love is spelled T.I.M.E. and that when it comes to spending time with your family you have to be very careful of justifying the little time you spend with them as “Quality Time.” The reality is that the important things in life, especially with your kids and your spouse, just happen. You never know when that special moment is going to take place – and that is why it is so important to spend a lot of time with those you love.
Last Friday night we had one of those great memory times. My daughter Alexandra had her friend Lydia come over and then our neighbor called and suggested we get together and play Monopoly. So there we were sitting around the table for several hours playing the “World Edition” of Monopoly (don’t get me started, it has a little electronic debit card system and you buy cities around the world using an electronic currency trying to form a One World government but I don’t believe in conspiracies or that anyone is trying to brainwash our kids). Bottom line is we had a great time, and we learned so much more about our daughter and her friend than the typical “what did you do today at school” conversation.
Not only that but I WON!
So the point is, don’t fool yourself into thinking you can make up for less time with “Quality Time”. It’s fine to plan and do special things, but it’s the everyday things and the total amount of time that really builds the relationships.
So after the game was over and Lydia went home we watched some TV and talked. The game really wore Alexandra out because she fell asleep on the couch doing what every teenager does these days. She fell asleep in the middle of texting her friends – and I have PROOF! Alexandra, your dad sure does love you!